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Living two lives at once…

Living life can be tough at times, we've all been there at a certain time. Sometimes it's a little setback, other times it just seems like you're fighting an up-hill battle. You've got tons of things to keep in mind and take care of in order to make your life run smoothly. And let's be honest, we always get through the tough times and navigate our way back into calmer waters. And this is just your life, one life. Imagine how tough it would be if you'd be living two lives!?

You might say: "Two lives, that's rediculous. Nobody does that". But actually you may pretty well be doing so without even noticing it anymore.

Multiple lives?

You know how people always tell you to "just be yourself"? Do we even know what "being yourself" means to begin with? Some us play so many roles that it's easy to get lost in realising who you really are. You can behave one way around your highschool buddies and behave another way around they people working with you at the office. You can act like father or a child, a friend or a lover. It's easy to let these roles drift apart and having them develop into lives of their own. The roles you play in life start turning into different personalities of you that are no longer compatible with the others. (Imagine mixing a night with your college buddies and your collegues; you're used to act in two completely different ways)

The birthday dillema

I remember a couple of years ago I wanted to celebrate my birthday. At the time I had several groups of friends that were just "different" from one-another. I got along great with all of 'm, a part of me felt comfortable with each of the groups but putting them together in one room wouldn't be the best idea. So, in order to celebrate with all of them I ended up celebrating my birthday 4 times that year, three nights with different groups of friends and one day with my family. In retrospect, it was rediculous! I liked all these people yet I wasn't showing each of them the complete picture of me, I was just showing them one side of me.

Putting your personal puzzle back together

The birthday-issue was a real eye-opener for me at the time. I realised how much time, energy and even money I was putting into playing these different roles. I was trying to juggle the different pieces of me instead of putting together the pieces and "being" them as a collective. Using a metaphore: "A completed jigsaw puzzle is much nicer to look at then a heap of its pieces".  So why not show people the pieces after you put them together, the complete you. Even though it will take a bit of courage to show them something you fear may put them off, they payoff will be much greater. You can focus your energy on living just one life instead of splitting it. Focus all that power into the one life and prepare for some amazing things to happen to you, enjoying your reclaimed freedom to express yourself as you are.

Now go out, complete your puzzle and focus your power to enhance your life!
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