P.G. Snacks Personal Growth in bitesize chunks

26Mar/100

Email: The reversed Tom Sawyer principle.

As you may or may not be aware of, I started a new job at the beginning of February. It's great to meet new people, face new challenges and have some more money to spend on nice things. Apart from that, one of the things that also comes with working in a large organization is email. And as it turns out, lots… and lots of email.

The Tom sawyer effect
I'm not sure you are familiar with the term but I do assume you've heard of Tom Sawyer before. The Tom Sawer principle originates from a scene where Tom is ordered to paint a fence white. Tom wasn't particularly fond of doing work of any kind so he found a way to get out of it. He started projecting the idea onto passing people that painting that fence was actually a lot of fun. Yet, when they asked them if they could have a go at it, he promptly refused. Eventually people started paying him for the privilege of painting the fence.
Yes, Tom turned something that was boring work to him into something others would actually pay to be able to do. He essentially managed to turn a task into a privilege, work into play.

The Tom Sawyer principle can also be seen in many other situations in life but also in reverse. For example, extremely wealthy people that like to drive a horse and carriage for fun in their spare time. However, as soon as someone would offer them money to take them somewhere it completely took all the fun out of it and turned it into work. As soon as their fun turned into work, they lost all interest. (There is some fascinating research done on this, from kids to adults that is worth checking out)

Back to Email:
Do you remember when you first got to use email? I thought it was amazing! Even though I didn't have that many people to send emails to in the beginning, simply because it wasn't widely adopted, just the thought of communicating this fast across enormous distances felt awesome to me! The more people started using it, the higher its value of email became, as is with any network. Email was fun to use! Now queue the office…
In offices, email has started taking over people's schedule. It's often no longer a tool but an objective: "Get through all your email today". There are now tons of freelance consultants making money on teaching people how to cope with this seemingly endless flow of incoming emails clogging up their day and annihilating their productivity.
Luckily I'm aware of this problem and intend not to become a victim of it.

But sadly, I am starting to become a victim of the Tom Sawyer effect. Email, once fun to use, is turning into work. I get dozens of emails to read. Ever since the CC-box was invented, so was the "FYI" (for your information) email. Since it's so easy to send messages, documents etc around your colleagues automatically assume you can (and want to) read everything they send you.

Alarm bells ringing
Last week I found myself experiencing my inbox as a burden for the first and almost freaked out! Just one paragraph earlier I stated that I wasn't going become a victim of letting my day be dictated by my inbox. From that moment on I took it upon myself to just clean my inbox as fast as I could, preferably using the "delete" button. (If you're looking for a great time-saver, that key could become one of your best friends, I assure you.)
I'm glad I almost freaked out because it gave me a timely wakeup call. Stop sending useless emails, stop CC'ing people to make them think they are either important or to "prove" you are actually working during office hours. If you recognize yourself doing one of these things, you're contributing to the flood of email. Just,… stop it!

Wrapping up
Realise when you've let yourself be tempted into turning something that used to be fun into work (or worse). Then take action to take back control of the situation. Take simple steps, start today! In the case of email, it's simple: Just send less of it, to less people and only when it actually serves a purpose.

13Mar/102

Living two lives at once…

Living life can be tough at times, we've all been there at a certain time. Sometimes it's a little setback, other times it just seems like you're fighting an up-hill battle. You've got tons of things to keep in mind and take care of in order to make your life run smoothly. And let's be honest, we always get through the tough times and navigate our way back into calmer waters. And this is just your life, one life. Imagine how tough it would be if you'd be living two lives!?

You might say: "Two lives, that's rediculous. Nobody does that". But actually you may pretty well be doing so without even noticing it anymore.

Multiple lives?

You know how people always tell you to "just be yourself"? Do we even know what "being yourself" means to begin with? Some us play so many roles that it's easy to get lost in realising who you really are. You can behave one way around your highschool buddies and behave another way around they people working with you at the office. You can act like father or a child, a friend or a lover. It's easy to let these roles drift apart and having them develop into lives of their own. The roles you play in life start turning into different personalities of you that are no longer compatible with the others. (Imagine mixing a night with your college buddies and your collegues; you're used to act in two completely different ways)

The birthday dillema

I remember a couple of years ago I wanted to celebrate my birthday. At the time I had several groups of friends that were just "different" from one-another. I got along great with all of 'm, a part of me felt comfortable with each of the groups but putting them together in one room wouldn't be the best idea. So, in order to celebrate with all of them I ended up celebrating my birthday 4 times that year, three nights with different groups of friends and one day with my family. In retrospect, it was rediculous! I liked all these people yet I wasn't showing each of them the complete picture of me, I was just showing them one side of me.

Putting your personal puzzle back together

The birthday-issue was a real eye-opener for me at the time. I realised how much time, energy and even money I was putting into playing these different roles. I was trying to juggle the different pieces of me instead of putting together the pieces and "being" them as a collective. Using a metaphore: "A completed jigsaw puzzle is much nicer to look at then a heap of its pieces".  So why not show people the pieces after you put them together, the complete you. Even though it will take a bit of courage to show them something you fear may put them off, they payoff will be much greater. You can focus your energy on living just one life instead of splitting it. Focus all that power into the one life and prepare for some amazing things to happen to you, enjoying your reclaimed freedom to express yourself as you are.

Now go out, complete your puzzle and focus your power to enhance your life!
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